Austin and I celebrated 8 years of marriage on May 29th. I have learned a novel full of things.
However, I decided to break it down to the 8 that have been game changers in our marriage.
Here’s what I have learned –
- Assume the best in your spouse. Always.
Learn to fight for your marriage not against your spouse. Your spouse is not the enemy.
You will have good days, bad days, hard days, and happy days. Learn to embrace them hand-in-hand.
If you are in debt – get out. If you are out of debt – stay out of debt. Being on the same page in regards to money will keep you both out of trouble. Austin and I set up a joint banking account. Everything goes in there.. WE are ONE. It’s not his money or my money, it’s our money. Sharing one account may take some getting use too, and it will take budgeting things out. But it will be worthwhile.
Communication is KEY!!! It is a constant battle, but one worth fighting for. I would rather over communicate (not nag) my expeciations, desires and needs, rather than assume Austin can read my mind.
Protect Each Other’s Reputations – You don’t have to run off and tell the world of one another’s shortcomings. Sometimes things need to stay between the two of you.
Pray together – Find time to be together in prayer. Be it in the morning, or before bedtime – speaking your praise and request outloud to The Lord and your spouse, is something worth setting time aside for.
Be each other’s biggest cheerleader. Lift each other up in private, and in public. We established early on that “Behind every joke is a little bit of truth…” so we don’t joke at one another’s expense either.
P.S… You don’t have to compromise on everything.
I don’t like chocolate. Austin loves chocolate. So instead of sharing a dessert at dinner – we each get our own.
There will always be a time and place to compromise. However, sometimes it’s best to enjoy what we both love separately.