November 2010. I remember crying on the phone every night when we talked on the phone. BEGGING Nathan to propose already. #desperatemuch Constantly asking how long he was going to wait and hearing the same answer over and over, “It’s not going to happen any time soon. I’m saving for a ring, and I do not think it’s the right time.”
He had taken a job in another town, moved, and we were now long distance. I did NOT like it. Not one bit. Side note: My “Love Language” is time. If you spend time with me, I feel loved. Giving of my time is also how I show love. Long distance was difficult for me, and I wanted him to propose. Many times, I told him that I didn’t care if he got me a ring or not. I wanted to be his wife and be with him.
December 2010. Nathan proposed on Christmas day. In his parent’s living room. He used his nephew, Crockett. Crockett gave everyone (one at a time) a picture ornament with his picture in it. I was given the last one, and it didn’t have a picture. Instead, it said “Cake, will you be my aunt?” I thought it was a joke at first. I don’t know if you’re following me, but the whole two months prior to that moment I was told repeatedly that a proposal was not coming any time soon. The first words out of my mouth were, “Is this a joke?” Thankfully it wasn’t. I still remember how happy I was in the moment. I’d say “yes” a thousand more times, too. Because I was saying yes to my person. My match. My best friend. My partner for life.
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Which brings me to the point of this blog post: It is not about the ring. It is not about the proposal. It is not about the wedding. It is about your person, and your future together. It is about growing together with Christ. Loving someone more than yourself and fighting for that love every day.
I know some of you are gasping right now. But Kaitlin… you’re a wedding coordinator. Weddings are what you do!
That is true. Weddings are my job. BUT you know what I love about the weddings I’m blessed to coordinate? Listening to the couples say their vows and pledging their life and love to another person with their whole heart. The two becoming one.
“But ‘God made them male and female from the beginning of creation. ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Mark 10:6-9
The flowers are fun, the dress is always beautiful, and the food is tasty, but that isn’t the marriage. The marriage is the most important part of all of it. The marriage to the man at the end of your walk; he is more important. Fight for him.
My prayer for my brides is that they see past the ring, proposal, and the craziness of the wedding. That they look toward their future: Their person. Their match. Their best friend. Their partner for life. That they wake up every morning and choose to say “Yes” every day. They choose to love their husband through the tough and not so joyful days. I pray that they remember those vows they spoke on their wedding day and the joyfulness they felt when they said, “I do.”